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Why is so easy to slut shame a girl?

Why is so easy to slut shame a girl?

The news about Hrithik and Kangana’s relationship is being followed by the Indian media very closely. There are allegations, counter-allegations, supporters and shamers appearing from all possible directions. Recently, Adhyayan Suman, a Bollywood actor and Kangana’s alleged ex-boyfriend also spoke about his turbulent past with the actress. A section of media which empathized with the actor ran and reran a series of interviews with the actor and his family in attempt to garner sympathy for Hrithik as well as for Sumans.

Though we don’t know which side is the victim, the way the media is reacting to this NEWS poses one very serious question on our society – why slut shaming a girl an easy way to pump TRPs?  Doesn’t this clearly mean that some of us are busy enjoying this circus on TV? Before you dismiss TV as the medium of outdated folks, reflect on the thought that our Indian Twitterverse has #characterlesskangana as a trending hashtag.

I have no arguments to support that the claims made by Adhyayan and Hrithik are untrue, but I can’t understand that why we, as society, fail to just see this entire episode as the dirty linens of two bad relationships being washed in public or let the court identify the culprit? Why do we have to take sides? Why is it so easy for us to decide that Kangana is mad, violent and characterless while Adhyayan and Hrithik are not?

This incident raises many questions on our society:

  • Why a man in an extramarital affair is less a culprit than the ‘other’ woman involved in it?
  • Why a woman accused of physically abusing a man called a witch instead of a criminal?
  • Why do we still talk about menstruation with so much of grossness and associate it with arbitrary things such as ‘black magic’?
  • Why a woman who openly talks about her sexuality labelled a whore?
  • Why do we glorify a sacrificing and docile woman instead of those who fight for freedom?
  • Why do we use “mental illness” as a pretext to bring down the “seriousness” of someone’s argument?

This Kangana episode reminds me on another incident I came across on Facebook recently. A girl, in a metro city, wearing a summer dress was given a chastised by an auto rickshaw driver for dressing up inappropriately. When she opposed the driver’s behaviour, a section of her neighbourhood accused her of shaming the neighbourhood she lived in by, first, dressing up inappropriately and then, arguing with the driver shamelessly.

I fail to understand why we, as society, expect the woman to adhere to all the norms and why any deviation from the society’s image of a perfect girl is conveniently labelled slutty?

I also fail to understand that why ‘slut’ is such a bad term – is not prostitution business largely catering to the men in our society?

Author Bio : Richa Kashyap Bhaskar

Richa Kashyap Bhaskar

I am a Digital Marketer and Instructional Designer by profession, and a travel junkie, blogger, army wife and dog lover by choice. I swear by feminism and I am hardwired to despise people who ill-treat animals.  I blog here: https://richabhaskar.wordpress.com/

 

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